Love is something that affects everybody. It can be love for somebody else, love for your family, love for your god, love for your dog, or love for life. You can love anything at all if you want, but it affects everybody. Even the emokids who don’t love anything and think nobody loves them; they love the attention and love hating themselves. Love is a twisted reality, but nonetheless affects everybody.
I want to talk about loving one another. Fitting, considering tomorrow is Valentine’s day. Valentine’s day is one of the most commercial holidays out there. The main goal of this day is to prove your love for your significant other by buying them supper, flowers, candy, chocolate, whatever. Some people celebrate by having a romantic supper and evening at home, but most will go out for supper, buy flowers and a heart shaped box full of goodies. It is the main holiday that uses love as its reason for making you purchase goods. Why do we have one specific day in which we need to show our love to one another? Why February 14th? Why not spread the love over the entire year, and repeat every year? Anyways, that is a rant for another day; here I want to speak about love, and not any holiday associated to it.
Love is a fickle thing. Most people want it very badly, and those who desperately search for it will get hurt over and over. Those who aren’t too worried about finding love will eventually stumble onto it and be happy. Some people just want Prince Charming (or Princess Beauty) and will push aside what could have been their real love just to find it. The problem is what happens over time with love? Will it ever stay the same? Will you love your significant other as much in 7 years compared to 7 weeks? This is rarely the case. Some people see love as the butterfly feeling they get in their stomach, and when that feeling dissapears they move on. Others recognize love as when they’ve found somebody whom they know they can trust and be happy with. These two types of people don’t mix well. Eventually one will leave the couple searching for that butterfly feeling all over again. This crushes the other who sees love differently. So while love can bring happiness and lots of good times in somebody’s life, if it ends, it causes the adverse effect.
Here’s an example of what love can do. It starts as an upward slope. As long as you have it (love), it is good. You climb the slope as your love increases. Both parties are happy. Then comes a point where your love stays stable (butterfly feeling leaves). At this point one of the two (or both) will question whether or not if this other person is really the love they wanted. As soon as one of the two decides that the love is gone, everything goes downhill (for the other) and their life tumbles onto itself. They fall into a pit of dispair and then slowly climb back up. While this pit is never as long as the relationship had been, it is very difficult to climb out of and will be painful. Once they’ve climbed out of the pit, they are back at the beginning, once more looking for love, and then the cycle repeats itself.
Now, while I seem very pessimistic, I know and believe that some people will stay with each other and continue loving each other until the end. I’ve seen it happen, and I want it to happen to me. I believe in fate and I believe in love at first sight. As corny as that sounds, I am a hopeless romantic who dreams of a girl who will accept me as who I am. I thought I had found that at one point, but that girl lost the butterfly feeling and has moved on…
So what is love? It is an endless cycle, and it affects us all. For the lucky among us, the path is constantly upwards and will bring happiness for a long time. For others, the cycle repeats too often. The pit of despair is a place nobody enjoys being stuck in, yet is part of the path to true love.
Love is a beautiful, yet scary thing.. and even with the possibility of despair, we all continue our search for finding our true significant other.
